Becoming a dad at any age can be a daunting task and is one of the hardest yet most enjoyable moments of life. However, a question that I commonly hear from men wanting to be dads is they fear they’re too old or young to have children. This is totally normal, and I’ve decided to answer that question for you.
The best age to become a dad is 25 to 35 years old. Becoming a father requires maturity, fertility, health, and stability which are all factors that typically require a man to be over the age of 25 yet younger than the age of 40 when fertility begins to decrease. Though it is still very possible to conceive outside of this age range, these are the best ages to become a dad.
Dads come in all ages and you shouldn’t get worked-up about these “standard” averages of people becoming dads. The important factors are noted below, and you should consider these before becoming a father. Having these vital life elements secured and strong enough to include a baby within your life is crucial. In the article, we’ll be going through the absolute key aspects of life that must be solidified before becoming a dad.
What to Consider Before Becoming A Dad
You are able to become a dad really anytime after peuberty. However, most males at the start of their 40’s experience a decrease in good-quality sperm, meaning that they can have a decrease in fertility.
In theory, waiting until your over 40 can dramatically decrease your chances of becoming a dad but nevertheless, some males are fertile for much longer.
However, apart from being healthy and fertile, you should also consider the below factors, as these can significantly increase the well-being of your child and prepare you much better for fatherhood.
Commitment
A massive factor in becoming a dad is how committed you are to the idea of having a child. Remember, a child is for life not just for a few days or years and being committed to providing them with a quality life and having a good relationship with their mother is important.
The priority of becoming a dad is Showing love and dedication to a child. The bond between each other should be irreplaceable and unlike anything that you’ve ever experienced before. Having a child is life-changing and staying committed throughout their entire life is important.
Another commitment you’ll have to make is your relationship with your child’s mother. Having a strong and healthy relationship with the mother of your child can most certainly ease the pressure of parenting and dramatically enhance the welfare of the child.
Remember, some days as a dad are going to be smooth sailing, others not so much. However, whatever happens in your day, you should still provide full commitment to your child no matter what.
Stability
Next is stability, and this might sound rather weird at first but I’m suggesting stability in both your well-being and finances. Having both of these important elements stable and reliable plays an essential part in giving a child a good life.
Before entering parenthood, you should be financially stable. Having a trustworthy income flowing into your bank account that can provide for your family is extremely necessary.
Your well-being should also be considered “stable”. This can be quite controversial, but I personally believe that your physical and mental well-being needs to be stable so you’re able to be there for your child. Failing to have stability in these key factors may mean that your child loses important time with you their father while growing up.
I can’t stress how important it is to have a solidified income and controlled finances when becoming a dad. These are the last things you want to worry about and will drastically decrease the amount of worry you may face.
Maturity
Something else that you should consider is your overall maturity. Everyone matures at different stages within their life, and you should be mindful of where you’re at with it in order to correctly take care of a child.
Maturity comes with taking responsibility for your actions. Remember, having a child comes with a boatload of duties and you’ll no longer just be looking after yourself, but actually another miniature person.
You’ll also need to act like a responsible adult. Remember, you’re their role model, someone they look highly up to. Showing them courage, respectfulness and bravery are key factors in providing them with the infrastructure to become a terrific person, just like you.
Maturity is hard to equip and comes naturally when the time is right. Making sure you’ve reached some level of maturity and that you’re able to take responsibility for your actions is vital.
Health
As a parent, you want to be there for your children as much as possible. To do this, you must be physically and mentally healthy to ensure you’re able to spend quality time with them. Overcoming or controlling these issues before being a dad can prove to be a great benefit.
It’s been statically proven that children brought up with parents that suffer from mental illnesses are more likely to develop, social, emotional and behavioral problems. If you have any form of mental illness, you should consider the possible effects that it can have on your child. It is important to seek professional help when necessary so that you are not only personally healthier but so that you are also a better future parent.
Lastly, being physically fit and active as a parent is greatly valuable. Since your children are going to want to be active making sure you’re reasonably fit through their life can better guarantee that you’re able to enjoy the activities that all parents and children should enjoy together.
Health is overlooked by many new and want-to-be parents, but it can aide in some of the best moments of becoming a father and should never be forgotten.
Conclusion
You should now be aware that there isn’t really a “best” age to become a dad and have children. Although there are recommendations, I much prefer giving people a reason on when you should become a dad and why.
People mature, grow and get stable incomes at different ages and instead of baseing your decisions on the “recommended” ages to have children, it is a lot better to consider the important life elements that are needed to ensure a quality life for a new-born.
Now you know the important factors to consider before becoming a dad, you should evaluate your current situation and decide when it is personally right for you to become one. Remembering, it’s not a race and the right time will be obvious.